Creamy fig smoothie

Creamy Fig Smoothie 

This original recipe bursts with sweetness and flavor! It’s kid friendly and rich in potassium and magnesium.


1 cup organic soy milk or any nut milk
1 – 2 dried figs
1 banana
1/2 teaspoon cinnamon
1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 tablespoon oats
1/2 tsp maca powder (optional)


Blend all the ingredients until creamy and smooth.

Tip: To make it easier to clean your blender, fill it with water and blend for a few seconds, then just rinse it well.

Hands of Light Workshop – Tampa, FL

We are very excited to present this workshop in Tampa, FL!

This workshop was created and approved by Dr. Barbara Brennan.

During the workshop participants learn about:
– The Human Energy Field and it’s relationship to health
– Energy healing techniques
– Practice perceiving the human energy field with High Sense Perception
– Healing demo

Very happy to meet you, lunch is included.

How to help a client with narcissim

The following questions were posted to Stephen Johnson, Ph.D -Author of Character Styles and Humanizing the Narcissistic Style while doing a project on narcissism.

The interview was featured in the Barbara Brennan School of Healing Newsletter “In Touch”.


  • How can we identify narcissism in ourselves and in others?
  • What are good guidelines as healers to help heal narcissism?
  • What advice would you give to someone who is dating a person that has a lot of narcissism?
  • Do you have any of the latest research about narcissism or anything else that you would like to share with us?


How can we identify narcissism in ourselves and in others?

A very important thing about the Narcissistic personality or any other personality is that there has to be a congruence of many things that have to go together, you can’t just take one trait, like in the case of narcissism; narcissists tend to be grandiose and grandiosity is a sign of that but that only that does not make a person narcissist, we have to put together things like: The family history, relationship history, the relationship that you and the client have together and if it all fits, then you have character type that you look at.

Donald Trump shows everything, he is almost too classic to be in a textbook, it’s too easy. So what you see in him is a lot of grandiosity about himself, everything he does is the best, he is wonderful, everybody loves him, etc, etc, etc.

The other thing that you find with narcissists is the opposite of that, worthlessness so very often when you see somebody who is grandiose and if you also can get to the worthlessness, then you really have a narcissist.

The basic issue with narcissism is self esteem and if the self esteem is out lack,  it’s both grandiose and worthless, then you have the narcissist style, whether is you or somebody else.

People with this problem are very sensitive to criticism because the criticism hits the worthlessness and they think of the grandiosity as the defense against the worthlessness.

The other thing to remember of all the character structures I’ve written about, is that there is a continuum from the very worst to the very best. The very worst I called character disorders, the very best I call character styles and in the middle is character neurosis.

What you have on the continuum is you have very primitive organization in the personality disorder if people  have not grown up yet, they are still operating in a very childlike level. People who are neurotic specially with narcissism tend to not bother other people, they just tend to be narcissistic-ally worried about their self esteem. They sit more in the worthlessness area of the continuum. At the high end you primarily have people who just have a flavor of narcissism. They are not very pathological but they have sort of treads of narcissism and many people have that even if their dominant character structure is something else.

What are good guidelines as healers to help heal narcissism?

First you diagnose it and you diagnose it by looking at the things I mentioned and then what you need to do at the very beginning of therapy with narcissists is indulge their grandiosity, they will tend to idealize the therapist or devalue the therapist but usually what happens is they start by idealizing. And everybody is uncomfortable with that, everybody normal is uncomfortable with being idealized. If you are very narcissistic yourself you enjoy and belief that idealization, but if you are more normal it makes you uncomfortable.

And so which you have to do on therapy with a narcissist is indulge that, let it be, don’t mess with it. And if they begin to devalue you, let that be too, don’t mess with that either. They are so fragile, that they are really presided disorder. They are very fragile, very responsive to criticism, what you see with Donald Trump again, and so you have to be very careful with them at first and not challenge these things.

And then over time when the relationship builds, you can help them by educating them, and without using the word narcissism, that you may never want to use, certainly not at first, you can help them understand how they developed some of the issues they’ve got. And if you have had a good relationship they may confess to you the bad feelings they have about themselves. And you can help them understand how they come by their problems naturally, that is in the family history they were probably criticized a lot, put down and they developed this worthlessness feeling and then they had to defend against that by the grandiosity.

So you can help them understand it first. It’s kind of an educational process at least the way I do it. I help people understand what’s wrong, where it came from, with the message of you come by it honestly. There is nothing wrong with you, you are a normal human being who just went through this kind of history and this is what happens when you have that kind of history, you come out with a self esteem issue and rather than spend your time in worthlessness, you defend and spend your time in the other side.

That brings up another quality of narcissism which is splitting, is either, black and white thinking: you are really good, very very good or very very bad and there is no room in the middle and so what you help people do is get comfortable with the middle. Get comfortable with being good enough, comfortable with being good in some things, not so good in others; accepting that you are a human being.

What advice would you give to someone who is dating a person that has a lot of narcissism?

If it’s really, really bad you may want to run, because very difficult persons will take a long time to heal and what I have noticed is that very often, people under the age of 40 are much harder to help because they haven’t have enough themes in their life, the grandiosity can hold up, particularly if you are very smart, very successful and so on. It’s not until you have some failures in your life around work, around relationships, that you tend to be more open to therapy or to working on yourself outside of therapy. I think any serious narcissist really must have therapy, they are not going to get better on their own, I don’t think and they may live a narcissistic life all their life.

I think the best thing to do to help a narcissistic date is getting your partner to get some work, I don’t think that we can help each other very much on that level. If you are a girlfriend of a narcissist man I wouldn’t try to change him, I will try to get him see somebody who will help him change.

Do you have any of the latest research about narcissism or anything else that you would like to share with us?

The thing that I’ve noticed more as I have gotten older is that the creation of narcissism or any other issue isn’t just in in childhood. That’s when it tends to be the most powerful, the most unconscious, the hardest to help, but you can develop a narcissistic personality by having the same kind of conditions repeated later in life. Not usually in adulthood but often in childhood and grammar school stage, in high school, even in early adulthood like college age people. So I don’t think it’s quite as exclusive to early childhood as I might have thought earlier.

Interview to Stephen Johnson, Ph. D.

Recommended reading:

NPD, a compassionate approach, Salome Torres

Character Styles, Stephen Johnson

Humanizing the narcissistic  style, Stephen Johnson


Narcissistic Personality Disorder: A Compassionate Approach

Narcissistic Personality Disorder

“Narcissistic personality disorder is named for Narcissus, from Greek mythology, who fell in love with his own reflection. Freud used the term to describe persons who were self-absorbed, and psychoanalysts have focused on the narcissist’s need to bolster his or her self-esteem through grandiose fantasy, exaggerated ambition, exhibitionism, and feelings of entitlement.”

– Donald W Black, DSM-5 Guidebook



  1. Etiology
  2. The narcissistic dilemma
  3. The wound
  4. Issues of the Narcissistic Personality Disorder
  5. Energy Defense Patterns
  6. Essential features of Narcissistic Personality
  7. Counter-transference
  8. Transference
  9. Psychological Tasks
  10. Emotional Tasks
  11. Facilitating healing for the Narcissistic Personality
  12. Summary incorporating true self expression
  13. Bibliography

Narcissism can be seen as a variation of the Psychopathic Character. Once we understand the underlying psychic structure of narcissism, we can bring tremendous healing.

1. Etiology

  • Birth to 4 years (It can also happen later on in life even in early adulthood)
  • Narcissistic expression phase: 18-30 months old. Ambitious self-expression, magnificence and the child is also full of limitations.
  • Parental figures did not support the child in his achievements of the developing autonomous functions and his self expression, instead the child was put down or humiliated. The child’s real weakness was exploited by the parent or
  • The parents didn’t help the child confront his own weakness and the child was expected to be more than he is and live up to the parent´s expectations. In some cases the child is used to meet the parent’s need for a partner (pseudo-spouse).  
  • The attempt to be who others want the child to be is the False Self. The narcissistic has buried his true self expression in response to early injuries.
  • Message: “Don’t be who you are, be who I need you to be and I will love you. Who you are disappoints me, angers me, threatens me, overstimulates me”.
  • We develop the pattern of self betrayal hiding from ourselves what is rejected by others and aggrandizing the parts of that were accepted.  To fulfill what others want us to be we had to dis-identify with our limitations, vulnerability and separateness.
  • Buying into the seduction of specialness of the other when we meet their expectations and merge with the positive objectification of the other, confusing that with being loved.                                                                                photo-1446476012059-4f9c278d54d5

2. The Dilemma

  • There is no way to realize one’s true self:
  • One can´t be as magnificent as born to be.
  • One can´t be as vulnerable as born to be.
  • This triggers unbearable feelings of worthlessness. Overwhelming attempt to stop feeling bad.
  • Must be perceived as competent, right and knowing.

3. The Wound

  • The rejection of one’s true self. (The used child)
  • The wound of rejection, feelings of worthlessness are compensated with lack of humility, entitlement, inability to accept failure, striving for power and control, manipulations and a commitment to willfulness and winning.
  • Universally: Physical appearance – being ugly or intellectual capacity – being stupid.


4. Issues of the Narcissistic Personality Disorder

  • Confuses ordinariness with worthlessness. Seeks the seduction of specialness.
  • Intense fears of being controlled, humiliated and defeated.
  • True love and recognition are the narcissist’s deepest longing and forsaken hope
  • Needs healthy mirroring, appreciation, value, being seen, honest mirroring of the real self.
  • No real intimacy or friendships third and second chakra dysfunction does not allow the heart to fully open. Doesn´t relate to others in a mutually beneficial and human way. Needs to trust others and internalize love and care for self and others.
  • Idealizes and looks for the self in other. Circles from idealization to disillusionment.
  • Needs to integrate the polarities of unity/individuality and grandiosity/vulnerability
  • Conflicts with authority: It has to be MY way.
  • Ungrounded grandiosity to avoid feeling humiliation and worthlessness.


5. Energy Defense Patterns of the Narcissistic Personality Disorder

  • Upward displaced psychopath: Energy displaced upwards into the top half, weakness on the lower half of the body. This reflects an ungrounded base supporting exaggerated power, willfulness and achievement.
  • People who have had childhoods in which their boundaries were invaded (masochism) or their needs ignored (orality) are more likely to end up with a narcissistic partner which will replicate their childhood issues. Oral people are undercharged which makes them be drawn to narcissistic people who are overcharged in order to feel life force flowing through them.
  • Chameleon psychopath: no obvious distortions on the body, an idealized false self mask is presented to the world.
  • Pelvis: is rigidly held. Blocks sexual energy flow.  (This is because the parental using and manipulation of the narcissistic client often involves the sexual realm).
  • Waistline: is constricted, inhibits awareness of the sexual impulse and of being ungrounded.
  • Diaphragm: is tight and constricted to inhibit feelings and full awareness of the body.
  • Shoulders: raised and tight symbolic to the “raising to the occasion” of the parent expectations.
  • Neck: tightness of the narrows of the neck to inhibit flow of feelings between body and head (This also happens in oral and schizoid characters)
  • Eyes: watchful and suspicious
  • Vertical Power Current: pulled back, will centers are overactive.
  • Back of Skull: major block that inhibits expressing feelings.
  • Chakras: First chakra contracted and third eye exaggerated.

6. Essential features of the Narcissistic Character

  • Ungrounded Grandiosity to avoid feeling worthlessness/humiliation: “Sorry losers but my I.Q. is one the highest and you all know it. Please don’t feel so stupid or insecure; it’s not your fault.”
  • Splitting: black and white thinking: you are either really good or very bad and there is no room in the middle: “Hillary Clinton is the worst secretary of state in the history of the United States”
  • Self-Centered: “I, me, my”. “It’s all about me”
  • Entitled: Feels entitled to say anything without consideration about who he hurts.
  • Denial of any faults which protect a very negative underlying self image.  
  • Sensitivity to criticism: Needs to develop a psychic structure to integrate good and bad within the self.


7. Countertransference 

The emotional reaction of the analyst to the subject’s contribution

  • Feeling inadequate
  • May find yourself fighting with the client
  • May collude with the narcissistic false self not noticing it is unreal
  • You may not want to show appreciation of them
  • May want to do more: intervene, change, transform the client. When you do this, the client will once again have to set expectations to live up to. He will try to accept any intervention you offer to aggrandize your own grandiose self.
  • The primary difficulty to offer the client healthy mirroring, value and care is your own narcissism, if your own issues are narcissistic, you might narcissistic-ally invest your energy on the client and unconsciously resent giving the client what you have not received. You may resent being a support for someone else’s real self when you need this for yourself.
  • If the narcissism as a therapist is unconscious, the therapist might be inclined to use the client. Example: use the client to promulgate the success of your work which only adds to the original injury of the client.
  • Being angry at the client for his attacks or devaluation towards the therapist. Useful: Respond with sympathy and empathy to the client’s attacks. (This is useful only for narcissistic clients, not for clients with borderline)
  • Most therapists report feeling anger, dread and resentment towards narcissistic clients as well as feeling devalued and criticized by the client and finding themselves distracted, avoid-ant and wishing to terminate treatment.

8. Transference 

The redirection to a substitute, usually a therapist, of emotions that were originally felt in childhood (in a phase of analysis called transference neurosis ).

  • May be manipulative, elusive.
  • May challenge, dominate and control
  • May try to undermine you
  • Avoid feelings by presenting an insincere facade
  • If the therapist is grandiose and claims instant success, the narcissistic client will idealize the therapist. The client´s narcissistic idealization of the therapist colludes with the narcissistic need for mirroring of the therapist. Since both contribute to the grandiose, false, compensatory selves, there isn’t a resolution of the transference.
  • The narcissistic client needs a self-object transference: sees the therapist as someone he loves and admires and also as someone he hates and envies.
  • Initially avoiding intervening is good, if you intervene and interpret, the narcissistic client will unwelcome your interventions and experience them as a narcissistic injury, as an implication that he is stupid, in need of support, flawed or can’t figure things out by himself.
  • Merger Transference: Sees himself merged and entitled of others: Seeks out for the perfect object with whom to merge (potential mate). When merger idealization exists, the individual is looking for unity (symbiosis) which was either lost prematurely or not sufficient by the caregivers. He merges through the extension of his grandiose self. (A beautiful wife makes him more attractive). He believes he owns his wife (or therapist) and she should always be there for him, he gets angry if she is not. He merges his grandiosity with people who will reflect his own intelligence, beauty and success.
  • Twinship Transference: Forms Twinship relationships, idealization of the alter ego transference: Separateness is acknowledged but he assumes that the other is very similar to what he likes or dislikes. (Tends to find oral/symbiotic character styles who will fulfill this expectation) An example of this is young romance and part of the function of this attachment is the discovery of self.  Twinship in the healthy sense can help a narcissistic person with accurate empathy and acceptance, it helps the narcissistic person feel less isolated and confirm that he belongs to the human community and that his feelings are part of the human experience.
  • Mirror Transference: Needs someone to look up to, believe in, imitate (The perfect role model). The other is used to aggrandize the false self with attention, prize, and respect. This helps the development of a separate self but not the discovery of the real self. Needs others to confirm and strengthen the insecure self. Narcissism is other-related. The self is almost entirely defined by the other’s response to him. When there is no gratifying response there is emptiness and depression which is the narcissistic underlying emotional state. Needs constant mirroring. Example: Gets angry if you don’t notice his new haircut or prize his accomplishments. Healthy mirroring: We need people to understand, value and really see us, when the mirroring is for real, then we can relax and are encouraged to be our real selves.

9. Psychological Tasks for the Narcissistic Personality

  • Letting go of the idealized self by using others to discover and strengthen the ordinary real self instead of using others to aggrandize the false self.
  • Do a realistic assessment of one’s abilities and achievements while also doing  a realistic assessment of one’s limitations and weaknesses.
  • Realize that one’s magnificence is found in ordinariness, this being the capacity to feel human feelings and that the gift is found in one’s humanness and not on one’s specialness.
  • Establish trust in the real self and trust for others. See others as allies instead of seeing them as obstacles.
  • Heal through the human community to experience real autonomy with real people and experience a greater support system.


10. Emotional Process Tasks for the Narcissistic Personality

  • Feel the depth of the worthlessness and falseness is a seed for healing.
  • Mourn the injury and the loss of the real self and build a true sense of self.
  • Access feelings of rage in response to the early injury.
  • Nurture and internalize empathy and love for others.
  • Access the need to merge, idealization, twin-ship and mirroring and assist in the maturation of these needs.
  • Explore the grandiose false self: feelings of superiority, entitlement, pride, disgust with others.
  • Feel the void, fragmentation, emptiness, and discontinuity of the real self.
  • Making the decision to grow up which is to give up the hopes for magical fulfillment, fulfillment without effort, without compromise, without limitations, without connection with reality. My way, right or wrong, is the infantile demand.
  • A great healing can anchor in expressing moments of unhappiness and raw feelings that arise. One of them may be the realization that one of those feelings is love. ¨If I could feel love, I was lovable”.
  • Learn social behaviors that communicate empathy and understanding of others, teach the client to let in the warmth and human caring that others provide.


11. Facilitating Healing for the Narcissistic Personality Disorder

  • Be yourself in the most genuine and realistic manner because the objective for therapy of the narcissistic person is to be himself. The narcissistic person can perform but cannot be himself.
  • Seeing the false magnificence of the client as well as the vulnerability can be tremendously healing for the client.
  • Model acceptance of your own limitations and forgiveness of one’s errors as therapists. Perfectionism about being a perfect therapist is a narcissistic adaptation.
  • Avoid being manipulated yourself by the client and avoid using the client to serve you.
  • At the very beginning of therapy with narcissists indulge their grandiosity
  • Client will tend to idealize or devalue the therapist but usually they start by idealizing. Let it be. Remember that narcissistic people are very fragile.
  • Let the relationship build and help the client understand how they developed some of the issues they’ve got. Don’t mention the word narcissism.
  • Help the client understand their problems naturally, that is in the family history they were probably criticized a lot, put down and they developed this worthlessness feeling and they had to defend against that by the grandiosity.
  • Help the client understand what’s wrong, where it came from, honestly: ¨There is nothing wrong with you, you are a normal human being who just went through this kind of history and this is what happens when you have that kind of history, you come out with a self esteem issue and rather than spend your time in worthlessness, you defend and spend your time in the other side.¨
  • Narcissistic clients Split and have black and white thinking: really good or very very bad. Help the client be comfortable with the middle: being comfortable with being good in some things and not so good in other things.
  • Be free of pressure or demand on the client to achieve your wishes and fulfill your values.
  • Be mindful that any source of negative feedback might seriously re-injure or provoke rage.
  • Be a reliable mirror for the client, really see, understand, value the client. When the mirroring is for real the client is encouraged to be his real self and can relax.
  • Help the client see their child consciousness: entitlement, grandiosity and objectification of  others. See and understand who they are to help them feel the real and vulnerable person inside
  • Emphatically help the client when experiencing his chronic pain and hurt, re-frame the pain as a signal of the emergence of the true self where there is deeper and softer pain to be feel.
  • Watch within yourself when you judge the client´s false self and the intense archaic demands of the client’s real self.
  • Working with the legs in a playful way that involves the other: feet to feet, leg to leg.
  • Work with the experience of coming down. Learning to ground.
  • Bring lower and upper body together.

12. Summary incorporating true self expression:

Narcissism can be seen as a reminder of our own humanity. Narcissistic people tend to evoke anger and criticism from others and by remembering that a narcissistic person was painfully injured, criticized and put down, we can respond in a different way, this is by being human and deeply connected to our hearts.  “We are just walking each other home”.   

The narcissistic injury is when it’s not ok to be who you are, and you have to be something else…so you build this fake personality and forget your human self. Life is a constant striving to win appreciation, acceptance and to aggrandize the self so that you won’t feel the other parts of you that are were not welcomed. You had to be strong, the best in everything and couldn’t be vulnerable and soft, for example. So being comfortable with making mistakes and with being good at some things and not so good at other things is called reality! 🙂

Now, as you were used by your parents, you learned to use others as well but at the end of the day you are searching for love. Opening to receiving warmth from your fellow human beings and caring for them helps you feel part of this community of humans and in this way you won’t be isolated anymore.

We spend all our life trying to feed our ego but at the end of the day, no matter how high above others we are, we will feel emptiness and learning to be ok with emptiness is a doorway to feeling fulfillment if you stay with it long enough. 🙂 hurray!

Healing ourselves doesn’t have to be hard; it’s all about seeing our feelings as feelings and our thoughts as thoughts. Feelings are like waves, they come and go. Thoughts are like clouds, they come by and say hi and then they dissipate. So if you are not your feelings or your thoughts, then, what are you?

Pondering on this can bring immense freedom. There is this little ego that strives to be the best and wants it´s way and then there is something way bigger and vaster than that…that is you!



13. Bibliography

Humanizing the narcissistic style, Stephen Johnson

Characterological transformation, Stephen Johnson

Character Styles, Stephen Johnson

Barbara Brennan School of Healing Handouts

The Search for the Real Self, James F. Masterson

Meditation and the dilemma of narcissism, Epstein

Countertransference phenomena and personality pathology in clinical

Countertransference and its Influence on Judgements of Fitness for Analysis


5 Tools To Upgrade Your Healing Skills

Using your pendulum,  intuition or muscle testing can be very useful to determine the blockages of energy in our body and the best choices we can make to balance ourselves.

The charts below are a great tool for healers, doctors and dowsers.

The information below is a summary from different healing modalities, among these: Sintergética, developed by Dr. Jorge Carvajal, Brennan Healing Science developed by Dr. Barbara Brennan and the Clairvision School of Meditation developed by Dr. Samuel Sagan as well as my background in nutrition.

We are going to explore:

–  How to detect energetic and physical blocks  

–  How to develop our intuition and cultivate clarity

–  How to choose the right diet for yourself or your client

–  How to balance the chakras

–  Grounding


Detecting Blocks

By using your pendulum or muscle testing, you can go through the list below and see where you or your client need work. 


Scars block the flow of energy in the body. Ask your pendulum which scars need work:

Physical Scars:

– From surgery

– From the Epidural (anesthesia produced by injection of a local anesthetic into the peridural space of the spinal cord beneath the ligamentum flavum)

– Cuts

– Ruptures

– Belly button (is also a scar!)

– Episiotomy (surgical incision on the perineum and the posterior vaginal wall during second stage of labor)

– Tonsillectomy (the surgical removal of the tonsils)

– Wisdom tooth

– Body Piercings (In this case you can also consult with an acupuncturist to bring the energy flow back to the body. Some piercings block the energy flow on the meridians)

– Tattoos (Ink from tattoos is toxic and it’s also considered a scar)

– Emotional Scars

– Trauma

– Biological reaction to an emotional situation (Example: Receive bad news while you are eating)


Toxins are found in the middle layer were connective tissue, muscle, bone and circulatory systems develop.
When you find toxic impregnations, you can remove them from your environment or diet and use a high quality B complex as well as supplements such as chlorella, spirulina and chaga mushroom tea.

TOXIC IMPREGNATIONS (Muscle test each number)

1. Botulism (botulinal toxin has been found in canned corn, peppers, green beans, soups, beets, asparagus, mushrooms, ripe olives, spinach, tuna fish, chicken and chicken livers and liver pate, and luncheon meats, ham, sausage, stuffed eggplant, lobster, and smoked and salted fish)
2. Tuberculinium (Sometimes found in dairy: pasteurized milk)
3. Salmonella (Found in chicken poop, sometimes it’s in top of eggs, so make sure to wash them well before using them)
4. Pyrogenium Swiss (Found in pork, sausages)
5. Pyrogenium (from chicken)
6. Pyrogenium (from seafood )
7. Pyrogenium (from eggs)
9. Flu
10. Hepatitis
11. Mumps
12. Smallpox
13. Measles
14. Varicella
15. Rociola
16. Tetanus
17. Caffeine (With Caffeine, you can transition to a less caffeinated drinks such as hierba matte. And if you love coffee and are not in the place to stop drinking it, make sure you drink lots of water and check if your calcium levels are ok).
18. Herpes
19. Human Papilloma Virus
20. Syphilis
21. Streptococcus
22. Staphylococcus
22. Meningococcal
23. Polio
24. Dye
25. Preservatives
26. Aluminum (food additives, deodorants, saucepans)


1. Hair dye (even organic products are toxic. The chemicals from hair dye go straight to the brain)
2. Paraquat (Toxic weed killer that damages the lungs and can cause death. Found sometimes in bread and pasta)
3. Antimony (Sometimes used in traditional cosmetics, paint and glass arts, ice cream, and cream of tartar)
4. Mercury (used in dental amalgams, cosmetics, lightening)
5. Lead (used in gasoline, it’s in the air, used in roofing)
6. Asbestos (pipe and duct insulation, building insulation, wall and ceiling panels. Linked to lung cancer)
7. Ammonia (bathroom cleaners, industrial food processing additive)
8. DDT (insecticidal, preservative in bread)
9. Aluminum (food additives, deodorants, saucepans)
10. Antibiotics (Drink Probiotics after you finish using your antibiotics)
11. Drugs
12. Chemotherapy
13. Insecticides
14. Fungicides
15. Chlorine (Mixing baking soda with vinegar to clean instead of chlorine is a great alternative! If your work involves the use of chlorine, please wear globes and a mask, take care of yourself. It’s very important).
16. Sulfur
17. Arsenic
18. Malatium (found sometimes in French fries, green plantains)


Natural irregularities in the earth’s magnetic field can be intensified by power lines, underground pipelines, and other natural and man-made features such that a stress field harmful to human health and well-being; may cause cancer according to research.

You can ask your pendulum if the problem or disease in your client is related with geophatic stress; if this is the case you need to ask this person to move the bed and dowse for earth lines or ask your pendulum where to put their bed. There are also instruments made specifically to dowse these earth lines; after you research about it, you can buy them or make your own. The book Awakening the Third Eye, by Samuel Sagan has information on how to do this.


Ask your pendulum, which radiation should be removed or worked on. Radiation can come from TV, microwave, cell phones, white lights, blow-dryers, old cars, computer as well as energetically from people we dislike or from an object that doesn´t serve us anymore.

Ask the person to turn off what is causing the radiation while they sleep and to keep it far away from their head. They may also benefit from walking barefoot or lying on the grass a few minutes a day. Radiation drains or system, using Earthing technology is a good way to shield ourselves from radiation. Earthing mats protects us and connects us with the energy of the Earth when we can’t be in nature. Earthing mats have been proved to regulate sleep patterns and help decrease thyroid medication.

4.Terrestrial Energies: underground water currents, geophaty.

5. Extraterrestrial energies: stars, planets (In this case the person may be affected by a particular planet, research the planet, it’s planetary force and what it is associated with to better work with it. A great book on planets is: Planetary Forces, Alchemy and Healing by Samuel Sagan.

6. Humans: When you dislike, can’t tolerate someone. Example: Math teacher. In this case I desensitize who I’m working with from the person energetically (usually its one of the parents) and work on the relationship. In some cases you dislike someone because it reminds you of something you dislike about yourself. One example here can be when you hate people who are submissive and can’t speak up. Maybe you hate that part of yourself that doesn’t have a voice right now. Once you work on this, you will be surprised at how people stop being so annoying. Of course there are more reasons, use your intuition and be curious.

7. Objects: mirrors, toys, paintings, furniture, etc. The energy of a particular object might not be good for us. Sometimes the energy of objects can give us an unpleasant feeling; it might be associated with memories from the past or attachments. It can also mean that the energy in the object has been stagnated or we are allergic to the material it’s made out of. Clearing clutter is always positive, don’t hesitate to get rid of things you don’t use or that make you feel down. Clearing clutter creates space for new things to arrive and can be a blessing to give them away or selling them to someone who needs it!

8. Beings from other dimensions: These beings might enter the energy of the person when he does drugs or drinks alcohol.

9. Cultural: Taboos

10. Religious: When “God” becomes a punishment, sin, guilt. (Closed off ideas)

11. Family: Different situations. Example: When the father dies the roles of the family change. The son tries to take the father’s role and the dynamic on the family changes. This is important to work on. The son needs to learn to still be the son; that is healthy because that is his role.

12. Ancestral: People from the past that still have an influence in someone’s life. Karma or unfinished situations. Family constellation therapy is ideal in these cases or working with a Brennan Integrative Practitioner.

13. Physical: vasectomy, laser surgeries, extracted organs, ulcers, tubal ligation.

14. Amalgams: Mercury, metal, tooth implants, wisdom teeth removal.

15. Beds: metallic beds.



The chart below belongs to my nutrition school. You can ask your pendulum or your intuition what is the right diet for you. Keeping in mind that the chart is just a guideline and it is very fruitful to eat intuitively.

5 Diet Types for Every Body graphic

We crave the foods we just ate, usually. Once we start drinking more water, eating organic vegetables and fruits we start getting our sense of taste back, some foods have many additives and are designed to be addictive. Please never microwave food. Never use plastic while microwaving foods. I have seen many restaurants that do that. It’s so toxic and scary. Plastic bottles are not good for us either, especially when they have been exposed to the sun.
Here is a simple chart that you can use to have a little guidance about the diet that might be right for you and it might change with time.

The chart below can help you to energetically balance your diet. Foods that are less yang and less yin are more balanced.

food energetics



Intuition takes practice, curiosity and wonder. I’m going to introduce a couple practices that have been useful for me, which I learned at the Clairvision School of Meditation.

Since I started doing them, I perceive more when I do energy healing and it adds depth to my life and relationships.
The two techniques below can be found in the book Awakening the Third Eye by Samuel Sagan or if you prefer to learn through a video, you can try this great practical here:

Here is a short overview:

1. Simply rest your awareness on the area between the eyebrows where the third eye is located and connect your breathing to it. Be peripheral, relax the eyes. Practice this technique when you drive, when you eat, when you are talking with someone. You can also rest your awareness in the third eye and the heart at the same time.

2. Night practice: this practice is designed to do before going to sleep or during the day if you need to rejuvenate. It will help you relax, enhance memory, recover from fatigue and sleep better as well as enhance your perception for non physical energies and learn to astral travel at night. You can find recorded versions of this practice or record your own. The practical video above has it as well. Enjoy it!

Here is a simple version:
Lay down comfortably on your back. Cover yourself with a blanket so as not to get cold. Make sure to remove your watch and belt and use comfortable clothing. Is important to be in a place where you will not be disturbed and that is quiet.
Eyes closed, legs uncrossed, arms by your sides. The practice will work better if your back is straight.
Relax completely
Start with a few sighs, sighing as a sign of relieve, letting go through sighs
We will begin with a round on body parts, each time I name a body part simply become aware of it.
We will start with awareness on the top of the head, awareness of the left ear, awareness of the right ear, a triangle pointing up from the ears to the top of the head, awareness of the left eye, right eye, awareness of the throat; a triangle pointing down, the eyes as the base of the triangle, the throat as the tip. Awareness of the tongue, the tip of the nose, the forehead, the top of the head. Simply awareness. Awareness of the back of the head, awareness of the back of the neck. From here we go to the left shoulder, the left elbow, the left wrist. Just awareness. Left hand, the fingers of the left hand, then awareness of the right shoulder, the right elbow, the right wrist, the right hand, the fingers of the right hand. Turn your awareness to the left hip, awareness of the left knee, the left ankle, the left foot, left toes, the right hip, the right knee, the right ankle, the right foot, the right toes, from here we go to the bottom of the abdomen slowly moving up to the navel, and moving from the navel to the middle of the chest, move your awareness from the chest to the throat. Feeling the whole head, awareness of the whole left arm, the whole right arm, the whole left leg, the whole right leg, just awareness, the whole body. Feeling the body as a whole.
From here a phase of recollecting images of the day. Start with what you were doing before the night practice, just remembering images, passively letting them come to you, moving back in time, towards the morning, the scenes of your daily activities, visuals of places you went to, people you spoke to, visuals of the foods you ate. Visual memories of the day, moving back towards the morning, images of yourself in bed as you were waking up. Now a phase of spontaneous colors and images, colors, moving patterns, images. Just let them come to you. Any image, any pattern, feeling the colors, drinking them in.
Now we are going to start a count down on the breath, starting with 21, with awareness on your belly, 21 when you inhale, 21 when you exhale, 20 when you inhale, 20 when you exhale and so on…
…if you reach cero or lose the count, start again from 21….
End of the night practice.



Chakras are part of our energy consciousness. When they work well, we are healthy and happy. You can open each chakra by changing belief systems that don’t serve you, by grounding, using colors, sounds or healings. Look at the charts below to get familiar with the chakra system. You can also put your hands on a chakra and tune into it. See how it feels, what sensations or emotions come up, etc.


As you can see above, each chakra has a location and a color. To open a chakra you can put your hand near the area and imagine that you spin color into the chakra on a clockwise direction. For example, the third chakra is yellow. You imagine that you spin it clockwise using color yellow or imagine a warm sun shining inside your solar plexus. The chakras above are located at the center of the body on the front and back of our body. If you have low self esteem, by working on self confidence you can bring healing to your chakra. Below is a short summary on the chakra system. Which chakra do you feel is your strongest? Which chakra needs healing?

levels of the field


This chakra connects us with our personal survival and will to live. It connects us with our family and our roots. It helps us ground and feel our place on Earth. This chakra is about opening up to your feelings of security and belonging.

Zodiac Signs: Capricorn, Virgo and Taurus

Color: Red

Area of the body that nourishes: spinal column, kidneys, adrenal glands.

Number of vortices: 4

Physical level: I exist, I am becoming

Healing Mantra: LAM


Zodiac Signs:  Pisces, Cancer and Scorpio

The second chakra is about our feelings about ourselves, pleasure, emotions, relationships, creativity, sexuality and money. This chakra is about opening up to others and express ourselves.

Color: Orange

Area of the body that nourishes: Reproductive System, gonads.

Number of vortices: 6

Personal emotions: I feel emotionally

Healing Mantra: VAM


Zodiac Signs: Aries, Leo and Sagittarius

The third chakra is about personal power, self esteem, intellectual understanding. This chakra is about standing up for yourself and is related with attachments.

Blocks in this chakra relate with fear of rejection and sensitivity to criticism.

Color: Yellow

Area of the body that nourishes: stomach, liver, gallbladder, nervous system, pancreas.

Number of vortices: 10

Thinking: I think

Healing Mantra: RAM


Zodiac signs: Aquarius, Gemini and Libra

This chakra is about opening up to unconditional love and compassion. Its about our relationship with others and about letting suppressed emotions heal. This chakra opens spontaneously when we think of someone we love. The fourth chakra is a breach between the physical and the astral worlds.

Color: Green

Area of the body that nourishes: blood, vagus nerve, circulatory system, thymus.

Number of vortices: 12

I though relationships: I love humanly

Healing Mantra: YAM


This chakra is about our ability to express ourselves and communicate with others. Voicing our needs and desires. It is related with Divine Will and surrendering.

Color: Sky Blue

Area of the body that nourishes: bronchial and vocal apparatus, lungs, alimentary canal, thyroid.

Number of vortices: 16

Higher Will: I will

Healing Mantra: JAM


It is located in the center of the head on the forehead. Our intuition and vision comes from here. It connects us with Divine Wisdom and our life purpose. This chakra is about listening to our inner wisdom.

Color: Blue Indigo

Area of the body that nourishes: lower brain, left eye, nose, nervous system, pituitary gland.

Number of vortices: 96

Higher Feelings: I love universally

Healing Mantra: AUM or OM


Located at the top of the head is our direct  connection to God. From here we receive guidance, grace and inspiration from God. When we feel like life is pointless we disconnect from God or Spirit and develop strong attachments to relationships, the physical world and possessions. This chakra relates to direct knowing.

Color: Violet, white

Area of the body that nourishes: right eye, pineal gland, upper brain.

Number of vortices: 972

Higher concepts: I know, I am

Healing Mantra: OM or AH


effect of colors



The Earth contains healing energy. Science has described this energy as free-flowing electrons which are constantly replenished by lightning strikes and solar radiation. These electrons can be transferred up throughout the body when we have direct contact with the ground which helps discharge electrical stress from the body and restore our natural rhythms. Grounding also helps you shield your energy when you are giving a healing or treating a patient.

How to get grounded?
– You can use grounding technology: earthing mats or sheets which connect you with the energy of the earth.
– You can also get grounded energetically. Here is a simple exercise to get grounded:

1. Stand up straight and feet wide apart. Bend your knees a little and feel your feet on the ground. Imagine a golden ball of light melting inside of you starting with the head, the shoulders, the arms, belly, hips, and legs until you reach your feet.
2. When you reach your feet, imagine roots growing down and reaching the center of the Earth, feel the safety of this connection. You can envision yourself as strong tree with big long roots.
3. Now bring the energy from the Earth up to your feet and legs with your intention. At this point you may feel more relaxed and supported.
Let the Earth hold you.
Grounding helps relieve stress, fear and anxiety. Every disease in the energetic perspective is caused by disconnecting ourselves from the energy of the Earth. We do that by closing our first chakra and shutting off our life force. (For example when you get scared, you may perceive how you freeze and move the energy upwards)

I hope you enjoyed reading this material.  Make sure to e mail me if you have any questions, comments or if you would like to experience energy healing.

Salomé Torres

Anti-Inflammatory Mint Smoothie

Mint is refreshing and supports weight loss, energy, cardiovascular health and has anti-inflammatory properties. Check out this delicious anti-inflammatory mint smoothie recipe.

Refreshing Mint Smoothie

– 7 Mint Leaves
– 1 1/2 Banana
– 1/4 Avocado
– 1 cup Almond Milk
– Sweetener (Try Stevia)
– Ginseng (Optional)

Blend and enjoy!

3 Simple Tips Lose Weight

Today I want to share with you 3 simple tips to lose weight. Losing weight can be pleasurable and I will teach you how. This has worked for me and for many other people.

Tip 1: Smoothies!

Smoothies are filling and delicious. People who drink them in the morning tend to feel full during the day. Click here to watch some easy recipes.
I love adding cacao to my smoothies because its reach in magnesium and antioxidants.

Tip 2: Don’t Deprive Yourself

If you are hungry, eat. Let yourself have the food you are craving, at least twice a week. When you deprive yourself, the cravings become more intense. Find a balance.

Tip 3: Feed Your Heart

Find nourishment in a different way: through good relationships and through doing what makes you feel good.  I used to crave ice cream when I needed love. My craving for ice cream disappeared many times after someone was kind with me or gave me a hug. This is probably the most important tip.

Hope you find this tips valuable. I coach my clients to nourish their life and have a peaceful relationship with food. You can learn more about what I do here.

Chocolate Party!


Chocolate cravings can have different meanings; one of them is that your body needs magnesium! Magnesium is good for our heart and helps our muscles relax. Most people have a magnesium deficiency, so make sure to add magnesium to your diet.

Another reason why we crave chocolate is because we need love; chocolate is metabolized to serotonin, a hormone that boosts our mood  in those cases it might be better to go for a walk, water your plants, spend time with a friend. Hope you enjoy it and may all beings be happy and have access to nourishing foods.

This recipe is delicious. I hope you enjoy it!

– 2 bananas (use one frozen)

– 2 to 3 tbsp organic raw cacao

– 1/2 tsp cinnamon (optional)

– pinch of turmeric (optional)

– 1 tbsp chaga mushroom powder (optional)

– 1 cup to 1 1/2 cup almond milk

– 1/4 avocado

– sweetener of your choice

– protein powder (optional)

Watch the video here!


Needy? Dependent? Healing the Oral Characterology

healing the oral characterology

A very useful tool in understanding our early conditioning, our core wound and how to heal it is Characterology. A system elucidated by Wilhelm Reich, a psychiatrist who was Freud’s student. His system of character analysis describes how we create defenses in response to parental wounding. The five primary wounds being humiliation, terror, deprivation, betrayal and rejection. Today we are going to explore the wound of deprivation which corresponds to the Oral Characterology.

While the child is breastfeeding, he does not only receive milk; he receives contact, warmth, and touch. The mother’s presence gives him the experience of being loved, protected and cared for. This welcoming love received from the mother establishes foundations for the mind and body of the adult to be. Qualities such as self esteem and confidence come from the motherly love one received as a baby.

The baby’s soul lands from the higher worlds in the mother’s womb and requires a lot of effort to adapt. The baby experiences the first contact with the Earth through the mother and from the time the baby is in the womb to two years after birth there is no clear difference between the mother’s emotional environment and the Earth. He also can’t differentiate his own emotions from his mother’s. The baby doesn’t have any protection against the mother’s emotions; he can receive love more fully than adults but at the same time can be hit very hard by his mother’s negative emotions. His brain is very plastic and impressionable; therefore it is more open to learn and more vulnerable to problems during development.  The way parents nurture the child programs his primal brain with a pattern of responses that will determine his future behavior.

The planetary archetype related with the mother is the Moon; it is open, receptive, and creative, often associated with water. The Moon has a great capacity for reproduction and it is cuddly, good at cooking, loves animals, it can be messy, sweet toothed, self indulgent and loves to talk. It is related with body fluids, soft tissues, breasts, brain, uterus and reproductive function. A person with strong moon knows how to make others feel taken care of, acknowledged and psychologically and physically nurtured. When babies have this kind of space in their life, it creates a feeling of safety inside of them.

The child  that develops the Oral Characterology had an initial wounding created by lack of nurturing. His mother may have rushed him while breastfeeding or he was abandoned due to mom’s death, sickness, depression, addictions, or busyness. The child may have been left alone crying for long periods of time with no one responding.

The child explains to himself that the reason why he wasn’t nurtured was because he was not enough. He gives up the dependent position before being satisfied, remaining chronically dependent and needy. He pulls off before being filled up when breast feeding and denies and disapproves of his dependency.  These patients feel that releasing the block and experiencing their own need will lead to a repetition of the painful disappointment and deprivation they experienced when they were little and that failing to meet the needs of others will lead to disappointment.

As an adult it’s hard to get his needs met. He is not able to fully take in what he receives from others.  Self nurturing and self soothing are difficult and he tends to get sick frequently or collapse with depression which justifies self indulgence as a way of support.

“I often hurried up when someone gave me attention. When I spoke, I tried to be quick and not take too much time. I was never satisfied when receiving. One time my therapist asked me to let her hold me like a baby and to take in her care and her touch. “Just let me know when you are satisfied,” she said. I felt like I had to hurry up to take in and I was afraid that she would leave. I couldn’t fully relax. She said: “So it’s never enough?” and I said, “NO” and clung to her more tightly. “What if you actually take in what I am giving you?” When she said that something opened in me and it took me three seconds to feel satisfied. I was shining and felt so happy and open”. 

The oral stage is the time when the baby receives pleasure through sucking. When there is not enough of that, the child may have oral cravings and want oral stimulation as an adult. In theory, oral fixations manifest as smoking, alcoholism, nail biting, sexual practices (fellatio, cunnilingus, analingus and irrumation), chewing and eating disorders.

The oral character structure often uses sex as a way to gain love and have closeness. They want to feel secure and use sex to avoid loneliness. They have the need to feed from the partner. Men with this characterology may not have full erections or may ejaculate prematurely. Women might have orgasms frequently and easily, but not strong ones. Surrendering to feeling love for another brings intense fears of being left alone or losing oneself. The person may want to be cuddled more than to have sex and in relationships the person might go back and forth between being in love and ending the relationship suddenly.  This is the child’s struggle of wanting to merge versus wanting to separate from the parent and individuate.  The child had the experience of being abandoned so he will have the tendency to do to others what was done to him.

“I needed to internalize the experience of someone leaving and coming back. When my partner used to leave to go to work, I felt a very strong fear of abandonment. This feeling started to heal when I consciously remembered that he will be back and had the experience of him coming back each day. When I have therapy, this feeling often comes back at the end of our session; I don’t want the session to end and I feel clingy. My therapist reminds me that he will not leave and that he understands that while I was growing up I didn’t have the steady presence of my father and that I need to continuously take in my system the experience of a steady presence, in this case my therapist’s presence so that I can build inner safety and strength”

oral character

The primal brain is responsible for survival and it’s activated by fear; it has helped humans survive through evolution. Most humans don’t experience threats of survival regularly so this part is overactive and often limits human beings. The threat of uncomfortable feelings triggers a fearful reaction, closing the human off emotionally from others. Such triggering feelings may include unworthy-ness, abandonment, shame, powerlessness or rejection. Is very important to reach out when feeling challenging feelings especially for this character structure. This can initiate the most dramatic change.

The oral character has an intense need to be taken care of. He can be clingy and needy in relationships, see others with more resources than his own and think that others may give what he needs. He is dependent on others because there is an unconscious belief that being independent means being alone. He needs to learn that he can be independent and have needs at the same time.

The adjustment process of these individuals often involves a great deal of caretaking others to attempt to fix others so that they may at last gratify the self. This is often observed in children of alcoholics.  The child care-takes the parent until it becomes too much and then collapses. Only then does he feel like he is allowed to have needs. He allows himself to take in and meet his needs to some degree, sometimes guiltily, and very soon returns to the pattern of helping others and denying his own needs.

The oral character might resist exercising when he is collapsed. Exercising can help him feel more connected with reality and his real self. It’s important to choose an exercise that is enjoyable. Partner yoga can be an excellent choice. It’s also important to be aware of the moment when we feel the collapse, having a straight posture specially in the area of the jaw and neck is very supportive towards the collapse.

Self soothing is important to develop as well. Sunlight and opening to experiencing direct pleasure is very helpful: warm baths, nourishing food, plenty of water and simple grounding exercises are very useful: standing on one’s own ground. Here is a simple grounding exercise:

1. Stand up with your feet wide apart and bend your knees as much as it’s comfortable. Now feel your feet on the ground and imagine a golden ball of light melting inside you starting with the head, the shoulders, the arms, belly, hips and legs until you reach your feet.

2. When you reach your feet, imagine roots growing down and reaching the center of the Earth; feel the safety of this connection.  You can envision yourself as a strong tree with big long roots or as anything that makes you feel strong.

3. Now, bring the energy from the Earth up to your feet and legs with your intention. At this point you may feel more relaxed and supported, letting the Earth hold you.

“When I need to feel supported, I just lay down on the grass or the sand and rest there, letting the Earth hold me”

Getting grounded helps relieve stress, fear and anxiety. From the energetic perspective, every disease is caused by closing the first chakra (which is the energy center that connects us to the Earth.) When we close it, the life force and the energy from the earth have difficulty reaching us and we can get tired or sick.

The Earth contains healing energy. Science has discovered this energy as free-flowing electrons which are constantly replenished by lightning strikes and solar radiation. These electrons can be transferred up throughout the body when we have direct contact with the ground, discharging electrical stress from the body and restoring our natural rhythms.


Raw living foods have the power to heal our relationship with Mother Earth since there is no processing between the earth and the food we eat. They can naturally increase our intuition and help us reconnect with our natural instincts which can assist with our ability to heal ourselves.  Healers from the Amazon are very in touch with this instinct; they know if a plant is poisonous or not by becoming very quiet and listening to the plant.

When I started adding nutrient rich raw foods like salads, sprouts, smoothies and green juices to my diet I naturally started craving healthier foods. My sense of taste was enhanced and I had more energy. I felt a sense of belonging and support around me and I felt very held by the Earth’s consciousness. I felt light, at home and it was easy to love myself. I felt clear and positive. It felt easier to be happier. I just felt so good!!!

A way of balancing our diet is by understanding which foods are masculine/yang or feminine/yin. That way we don’t go from one extreme to the other to alleviate the opposite food’s effects. Yang/Contracting (represents the masculine energy, strong, tight, hard and contractive) foods include salty foods, animal protein, grains and cooked food. If we eat too much contracting foods, our bodies will start getting tight and we will start craving expanding foods to balance ourselves.

Yin/Expanding (represents the feminine energy, soft, yielding, passive, receptive, and expansive) foods include sugar, alcohol, coffee, refined flour (such as breads, cookies, pasta), dairy, oil, fruits, nuts, seeds, tofu, leafy green vegetables, root vegetables, beans, and sea vegetables. Yin foods give a quick feeling of elevated mood and in the long run can produce feelings of depression, anxiety and loss of concentration.

Eating mostly one type of food pushes the body to the extreme, causing imbalance. The key is to balance them both. For people with oral fixations such as smoking or alcohol it is important to increase the yin foods in the diet such as raw foods, water and salads.

Just as we were once in our mothers’ bellies, we are now being fed and nurtured in Mother Earth’s belly. Reconnecting with the Earth deeply healed my relationship with nourishment.

“There were many days that I didn’t want to live. I finally felt alive. The trees were smiling at me, hugging my lungs with their branches; the birds were singing sweet songs. The little one in me was saying I never had enough, I am scared to grow. The day that I decided to take her hand and not leave her alone anymore, was the happiest day, she had been waiting for so long”. 


Creamy Mango Turmeric Smoothie

This smoothie is very creamy and packed with nutrition.
Besides fighting inflammation, turmeric also improves digestion, detoxifies the liver and boosts the immune system. You can read more about its benefits here



mango turmericIngredients:

– 2 cups mango

– 1/2 banana

– ½ tsp turmeric

– 1 ½ cup almond milk

– 1 tbsp shredded coconut (optional)

– 1 tsp vanilla extract (optional)

– ½ tsp cinnamon

– 1 – 2 tsp chia seeds, flax seeds (flax gives it a nutty flavor) or coconut oil

– Fresh ginger (1-2 inches)

Blend all the ingredients together on a high speed blender.


Delicious and healthy!